RO- DBT Therapy for Perfectionism ,
Emotional Overcontrol, and Chronic Loneliness in Long Island and NYC
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RO- DBT Therapy for Perfectionism ,
Overcontrol , and Chronic Loneliness
in Long Island and NYC
You’ve achieved, organized, and performed , and people may see you as capable, composed, or dependable. But inside, you might feel tense, always “on,” and never fully at ease.
Perfectionism and emotional overcontrol can look like strength and discipline, yet leave you feeling stuck, exhausted, disconnected, and lonely from what really matters.
Radically Open Therapy designed for these patterns helps you loosen rigid expectations, build emotional flexibility, and reconnect with yourself and others.
How Radically Open DBT Therapy Helps with Perfectionism , Overcontrol and Loneliness
Our New York licensed therapist, Chris Montano will guide clients through both individual sessions and RO-DBT skills groups, where they learn skills such as social signaling, openness, and emotional expression. We are teaching real skills backed by science.
Between sessions, clients are encouraged to practice new behaviors and mindfulness exercises to apply these insights in daily life, with phone coaching available as needed. Weekly Team Consultation to ensure every client receives high-quality, consistent care.
What Are RO-DBT
Skills Classes Like?
RO-DBT skills classes offer a supportive space to connect with others who share similar struggles with perfectionism, emotional overcontrol, and feeling disconnected. Together, you’ll explore new ways of relating to yourself and others through self-enquiry, discussion, and experiential exercises that encourage openness, flexibility, and authentic connection.
Many members are surprised by how comfortable and engaging the classes feel. While the work is meaningful, there’s also room for curiosity, laughter, and shared experiences. Over time, you’ll begin to notice that small changes in how you express yourself and connect with others can lead to deeper relationships and a greater sense of belonging.
How Therapists apply Radically Open DBT therapy
Perfectionism doesn’t disappear just because someone becomes a therapist. Many clinicians especially thoughtful, high-achieving ones are drawn to this work because they understand what it’s like to live with pressure, self-criticism, or the constant drive to get things “right ” patterns often linked to cognitive dysregulation.
Chris, one of our therapists at Suffolk DBT, openly recognizes his own perfectionistic tendencies. Rather than viewing this as a flaw, he approaches it with curiosity and humility using the same principles taught in therapy to notice rigidity, practice flexibility, and relate to himself with less judgment.
This lived understanding allows him to sit with clients in a genuine way during in-person therapy sessions in our NYC and Long Island offices. Not as someone who has “figured it all out,” but as someone who understands how difficult it can be to soften control and still feel safe.
Therapy isn’t about eliminating perfectionism it’s about learning when to loosen it, when to hold it lightly, and how to feel less defined by it.
At Suffolk DBT, we value clinicians who engage in this work themselves. We believe therapy is most effective when it is practiced, not just taught, and when it takes place in a supportive, in-person setting that allows for real connection and growth.
Through RO-DBT skills, clients learn to balance discipline with openness and experience connection rather than just accomplishment.
What sessions with an RO-DBT therapist look like
What Individual Therapy Sessions Look like in RO- DBT Therapy
A familiar structure including skills modules, weekly practice, and the use of diary cards to track progress. However, RO-DBT focuses on a different set of behaviors, not emotional outbursts or impulsivity, but patterns of overcontrol such as perfectionism, high achievement, emotional inhibition, and rigidity.
RO DBT often includes learning and practicing skills in Individual Therapy, Group Therapy and outside of sessions.
As a bilingual clinician, Chris provides therapy in English or Spanish
Supporting clients in building lives that feel more spontaneous, authentic, and connected, without losing the sense of purpose or drive that once made their perfectionism feel necessary.
Begin Treatment for Perfectionism, Over Control and Loneliness
The Process Begins With a Phone Call
During your initial screening call we will gather information about your history, discuss our intake process and schedule an appointment for a formal intake with our RO DBT therapists, who specializes in perfectionism, emotional over control and loneliness. Our programs are tailored to your needs.
Can benefit from learning flexibility and emotional openness early in life.
In our Adult RO DBT therapy we focus on reducing perfectionistic patterns, increasing self-expression, and building deeper connections.
Real Stories from Families
Ready to Get Started in
RO- DBT Therapy
and speak with an Intake Specialist?
Suffolk DBT proudly provides radically open dialectical behavior therapy (RO-DBT), a form of dialectical behavioral therapy, at their offices in Manhattan , NYC, Long Island, New York and with online therapy. Our experienced RO- DBT Therapists specialize in serving adults, and college students struggling with rigid thinking, perfectionism, loneliness, eating disorders, self-harm, and more. Radically Open Dialectical behavior treatment can help you manage emotions effectively and work through life’s challenges.
Completely confidential. Only takes 10-15 minutes.
