Suffolk DBT’s founder, Jeanette Lorandini LCSW, was featured in an article on Scary Mommy this month, talking about competence fatigue and the impact it can have on women.
From the article: ““When I hear the term ‘competence fatigue,’ I immediately think of a concept we frequently discuss in DBT (dialectical behavior therapy): apparent competence,” says Jeanette Lorandini, LCSW, founder and director of Suffolk DBT.
She explains that many of her clients grew up learning that they needed to be “the strong one” to receive support or acceptance. The easy, self-sufficient one. “While this strategy can be effective for a time, it often leads to a cycle where the more competent someone appears, the more responsibility is placed upon them,” she adds.
It’s a catch-22 because the performance works so well that it inadvertently masks your actual needs. “Apparent competence can unintentionally prevent others from seeing when they are struggling,” Lorandini says. “
You can read the full article here: What Is Competence Fatigue on Scary Mommy
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