Does Living With Borderline Personality Disorder Feel Impossible?
After being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, are you feeling lost and overwhelmed? Perhaps you’ve read terrible, frightening things about BPD online, and you feel like the whole world is shaming you for emotions you cannot control. You might be struggling to accept this diagnosis. Or, perhaps it seems to confirm your worst fears, making you wonder if it’s even possible for you to have a happy life with borderline personality disorder treatment.
Have you already gone through a string of misdiagnoses and ineffective treatments? After dealing with so much pain, frustration and crushed hope, you might question the point of trying something new.
At the same time, you might know that you can’t go on with this sense of chaos and emptiness. And, if you have engaged in risky behavior or self-harmed in the past, perhaps you are worried that you could hurt yourself again.
More than anything, you might feel vulnerable and exposed—uncertain of who you are and who you want to be. Are you tired of broken relationships, loneliness and self-hate? Are you searching for a way to understand and manage your emotions? Do you wish you could learn how to cope with BPD and feel accepted for the sensitive person you are?
You Are Not Alone, And You Are Not Broken
“People with Borderline Personality Disorder are like people with third-degree burns over 90% of their bodies. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the slightest touch or movement.”
—Marsha Linehan, BPD specialist and creator of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT)
It’s not easy to move through the world when you expect pain around every corner. But, if you’ve been diagnosed with BPD, it’s likely you’ve felt vulnerable and rejected for most of your life.
In fact, professionals believe most people who develop BPD are sensitive by nature—predisposed to feel things intensely. Then, they grow up in an environment that invalidates those strong emotions, causing deep confusion and distress.
For example, if you suffered parental abuse or neglect, you likely came to believe that you and your emotions are not important. However, it’s important to note that not all invalidating environments involve abuse. Even the most well-meaning parents, teachers, peers and loved ones can accidentally invalidate emotions through teasing, criticizing or ignoring. In one way or another, you likely received feedback that made you think your emotions are wrong.
In truth, there is nothing wrong with being a sensitive person, and your feelings are nothing to be ashamed of. You deserve the chance to feel heard and seen, just as you are. More importantly, you deserve an opportunity to develop the healthy emotional coping skills you need to live as your best self.